Why is a single, 34-year-old girl like me talking about marriage?
Because when you are 34 and single, people who are married like to fixate on the fact that you aren’t married.
Liked you missed the boat or something.
I’m 34, I have a Bachelor’s in Political Science. My professional life has included working for one of the most powerful political action committees to working in one of the top urban school systems. I moved to a great city to start my masters in Public Policy 4 months ago.
I would nothing more to share my life with someone and maybe have a kid or two.
It appears to me that as a society we view “getting married” like we view graduating from college, getting a new job or running a marathon.
Committing to marrying someone is so much deeper than that.
You could have the most amazing wedding, the one all your family and friends talk about forever.
People danced, everything went off without a hitch, there was plenty of food and libations and somehow you didn’t get anything on your dress.
And you wake up the next morning to the person of your dreams.
Here’s the deal, that person? The person who you married during your perfect wedding the night before, is the person you made a commitment to continue working with in a relationship.
Relationships are hard work, no matter what type.
And sometimes it’s tough.
At this point, you may be wondering why someone like me is talking about a subject she doesn’t know anything about it.
It’s true, I’m single and have never been married.
But I’ve witnessed enough to know that we aren’t doing marriage right.
Somehow we got lost in the taffeta, buttercream and perfect first dance song.
Have the wedding of your dreams…
But remember the person you’re waking up to the next day, is the person more important than any of the above.
The person you are choosing to continue the journey with.